A very long night

“Mommy. Moooooooommmmmmy. MOMMY!”

“Darian, I’m sleeping.”

“I need you to rub my back in my bed.”

“um, no. I’m sleeping. It is night time. I’m not going to rub your back in your bed”

Imagine the sound of a fire truck in your bedroom. Whhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhwooooooooooooo.

That is what my daughter sounds like when she is tired, cranky, and doesn’t get her way. This goes on for 3 hours.

I really wish I could tell her to shut the f* up. Honestly, I almost do. Momma isn’t full of tact at 3 am.

I won’t bore you with the details of the next 3 1/2 hours, but let’s just say she woke up her brother every 7 minutes with her out of control screaming and made herself almost puke 3 or 4 times by sobbing so hard, insisting every moment that she needed to have her back rubbed in her bed.

About to lose it.

Cute and happy

She ended up sleeping in our bed and stealing all my covers, dripping milk onto out sheets and kicking me in her sleep. The worst part. This isn’t giving in. She didn’t get her way, but Jared and I didn’t get ours either.

At least we stuck to our guns. No back rubbing in the bunkbed.

From experience, I know this wouldn’t matter. When she gets this way, there is no stopping her. She is completely out of control. Nothing we do will stop the terror.

No one slept and while she gets a 2 hour nap at noon today, I have work all day, an evening without my husband until 7:30 pm, and my best friend’s birthday after that.

Nights are hard. Really hard. Have always been hard.

I worry that these are signs of some mild bi-polar behavior. She becomes inconsolable and disrupt all of us. Her brain shuts down. I see it happen. Zero to atomic fireball in 10 seconds or less.

This happens at least once a day. The middle of the night is the worst, and last night may have been the longest night we have had with her in years.

But…she is 3. It could just be the age. Let’s hope it’s the latter and I’ll prepare to the former.

You know who I feel bad for? Rhys. You’ve never met a better sleeper. He wakes up happy, goes down easy, and has been sleeping through the night since he was a month old.

Even in the Bike Trailer


About dirtdonthurtmom

Beauty and Simplicity inspire me. Lack of clarity annoys me. Selfish people really piss me off. I have a filter, but ignore it, mostly.
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11 Responses to A very long night

  1. Bill says:

    You know — I’m not going to tell you what my mother did when I acted out in this way in the dead of night — because it’s no longer an accepted part of parenting in anyone’s book. Needless to say, I certainly didn’t do it again. Since I’m childless — I can’t even begin to relate with an experience like this. The best I can say? Good luck Roya…

    By the way — increase your font size for us old and blind folks.

  2. Yod says:

    Jody could have written this about me. Does that mean I need to grow up?

  3. Nicole Abarca says:

    I know what you mean, Elli does not sleep well. I am hoping that the new baby will be. I figure at some point we will sleep again, some days I am just more anxious than others to know when that is going to be….sigh

  4. megg says:

    Ah yes, our night battles have begun as well. In fact, as I type this, Im yelling “Get back in bed! I can hear you playing the drums!!”

    I too – hope its this age

  5. gramps says:

    I think the other Bill summed it up perfectly for me—being old and having had 5 kids. Bu perhaps a swat on the bum wont calm her either

    As I keep saying—grand kids are lots more fun!!!!!

  6. a swat on the bum only makes it 100 times worse. Shes a real spitfire:)!

  7. Bill says:

    A swat on the bum is still an accepted part of parenting. What happened in my case — would not be in any book of “accepted parenting skills” today — but it just might be found in the state penal code. My mother had some rather interesting ways to keep four children from acting out. There’s a reason why we all moved away at age 18 and never, ever returned again. I’ve always told Venus that if we’re ever fortunate enough to have children — that I cannot rely upon the parenting skills imparted upon me while I was growing up. I will back her call — but she will have to make the decisions.

  8. Blythe has a really hard time sleeping at night – she’ll be 3 in a couple of weeks, and the two of us have gotten a full night of sleep only a handful of times. She also flies into rages like that.

    Every kid is different, and obviously I can’t even begin to tell you about YOUR kid, but with ours, she is severely corn allergic – any time she’s exposed, her nervous system goes into hyper-drive and she’s OUT OF CONTROL. Especially corn syrup or HFCS, they are major triggers.

    Blythe also has sensory processing disorder, which, along with the corn issue, makes her quite a handful at times. We’ve learned a lot through therapy, and she has come a long way, but we definitely still have those moments – and those nights! Just less frequently, thank goodness!

    • The sensory processing disorder must make it super hard, especially coupled with the OCD and the corn allergy. I simply can not imagine. I DO imagine, however, that 3 year olds are all similarly CRAZY most of the day!

      We have had luck this week using stickers as a reward for every full night of sleep….we’ll see if it takes for good:)

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